If you’re like me you find yourself “over adulating” more frequently than you’d like to admit and then suddenly you feel rusty like the Tin Man needing a good fix of oil.
I was recently talking about this with a friend of mine. You see we both recognize that we’re rather serious, task oriented girls. While this has its perks (being quite good at getting things done) it can also lead to detours of the heart, betraying what really matters with a sudden “I can handle it resolve.” Remember how Dorothy led her crew on a mission, got detained in a field of poppies, washed and buffed in Emerald city all before returning home to find what she had been missing all along, herself. Been there done that!
Although I am task oriented, I am probably the biggest initiator of socializing of anyone I know (with the exception of my sister, the party girl.) I am always ready for adventure and regularly dreaming up socialization and fun, because I know the heavy toil of living without it!
For those of us with an over-adulting tendency it’s helpful to connect to things that recharge and reawaken our fun, lively, carefree selves. Below are some things I’ve learned about recovering my blissful, fun, easy breezy self from over-adulting.
Bliss Is In Reach
Some years ago I heard an intuitive message that made it quite clear that I was responsible for taking care of my fun meter. I couldn’t sit around and wait for the fun I craved to just happen. Hence, being a great initiator, I took it upon myself to schedule fun activities in bright pink and orange letters on my calendar. This made me smile. Some of the things I've done are to start a dinner club, lead a book club, take classes that perked my interest, try out music venues and more, usually with friends.
Because my work is heart centered it's easy to end up in deep waters. One thing I’ve learned about myself is that it’s important for me to remember that I see life and even business as relational and festive, sort of like a backyard party with twinkly lights, wonderful friends, family and food. However, when I take life and myself too seriously, the twinkle lights start to burn out. When I spend too much time around folks that are linear and think in less creative tones than myself, my luster begins to fade.
I have to remember that sometimes I need a good dose of getting out of my head and doing things like, playing chicken in the pool, entering a limbo contest or making a vision board (fun for no reason activities that can quickly put the skids on my over-adulting.)
Fun doesn’t really come from activities. It comes from within. However, activities can have a way of reconnecting us to who we really are at the core and that is joyful. The truth is joy lives inside us and it’s only when we forget that and take too much onto our shoulders that we begin to think we’ve lost our connection to it. Letting go of seriousness to engage in fun is a natural jump starter.
One time I was severely disconnected from joy and I was intuitively encouraged to remember joyful experiences. Suddenly, wonderful memories began to flood into my awareness and my stomach felt giddy, while a smile formed across my face. Nothing changed in my world, except realigning myself with what already existed within.
Yep, I have struggled with depression and for me personally it has always resulted from a skewed perspective, an illusion masquerading as reality that needed to be challenged. As soon as I grasped the truth I gained an upgrade into freedom and joy!
Strive much? Unfortunately I have a long history of, “I’ don’t need help. I’ll do it myself.” I thought there was no help to be had, so I proudly and robustly pretty much decided to tackle EVERYTHING on my own song and dance. That pretty much equals shooting myself in the foot. However, when I remember that I don’t have to do it myself, I’m open to receive divine assistance. When I give up the throne, I get out from under my over adulting and can again return to the party. That’s why I try to stay clear of other dutiful joy killers I mean strivers.
The best ticket in town for remedying over adulting and awakening to joy is living from the agelessness of spirit. God never ages and our eternal spirits don’t either. That means we can always connect to the never changing eternal bliss that already exists within us. Sometimes we just need a little help.
They’re times when I need a good reminder for sure and that’s about the time I get set up! Like the time I walked across the street with a 3-foot trail of toilet paper caught in the back of my jeans, flapping in the wind behind me. When I returned to the car my husband’s mortified look gave us both ample rounds of exuberant laughter.
The point is that we need to lighten up, recapture some giggles and hang up the over adulting! I hope you will help me remember when I try to hard too tow the line and I just might be the one to help you, by throwing a pie in your face!
If you're interested in tapping into more fun, joy and creativity, keep a look out for my upcoming online class, Redonkulous Joy: A Natural Remedy For Over Adulting. If you'd like to be notified when this class is up drop me a line.