Shaming behavior shows up when we fight over words, weaponizing language and using words as a sword that divides and separates. This reveals a cultural mindset.
Because I don’t want to be reduced by language used to box me in or define me, I consistently try to use words that are outside of certain cultural paradigms. This quickly exposes whether someone is bound by vernacular, or able to see through to the larger context.
Spirit exists beyond definition and so cannot to be surmised by mere words. Nothing can be added and nothing can be taken away from it. Words are but shadows that merely reflect limited human sight, understanding and belief.
When our comfort level surrounding familiar language gets tweaked, we might be responding from our own cultural fears. A good test to see if we are trapped in the confines of a limited language is to see if our feathers get ruffled when verbiage is used that is outside of our comfort zone, tribe, or cultural norm. If so we can practice getting curious, asking questions and holding the space to sit in non-judgment.
We may not agree with what is being spoken, but in this way we are able to relate to others without elevating ourselves above another, because of our own idea of correct language, or ‘in’ and ‘out’ definitions.
Words merely point to something. They are not the substance of the thing they point to. Boy, is it liberating when we begin to see another's beauty beyond words. I try to make this a regular practice in my life. It is an area for continued growth in humility.
30 Paintings In 30 Days, Day 20, mixed media piece, Words Can't Define Me