Like many, I grew up in a “don’t speak” culture that carries with it a code of silence deep within its bones. Although I don’t have a horrific story of abuse, the emotional abandonment and trauma I did experienced, took years to unravel, but left its mark. Underneath my story are layers of shame that kept me silent and absent from myself for years.Read More
Do you ever feel like you can’t move forward and are stuck in the same patterns or circumstances? That could be exposing signs of resistance. Most of us don’t even know we’re in resistance. I sure didn’t for the years I struggled with what WAS without knowing how to shift into what I wanted.Read More
When I was in high school we had a hammock in our living room in Cape Cod to take in the views of the bay. Back then I never quite knew what to do with my gypsy mama and her outlandish ways, although I appreciate them more and more.Read More
Yes, it's been ages since I've blogged. You don’t have to remind me, because I already have a pesky voice that says, “You should keep up!”
Being someone who supports women in casting off the restraints of conditioning that’s knocked the wind out of their sails and tamed them into someone other than themselves, I find "shoulds" tiresome. They’re only helpful if we recognize that they’re alerting us to something. It we pay attention to the signal, we might ask ourselves:
What’s the choice and what’s the abdication of one?Read More
This morning I'm sitting on the sofa with a to do list in hand, so exhausted that I can barely move. The onset of renovating our new home is going well, but the physical work is extremely taxing and I'm not even the one doing the bulk of it! Late nights of work and happy planning are requiring the hubster and I to dig deep. Welcome to a snippet of my midlife reality. :)
Nevertheless in the midst of the strain I find "thank yous" and "hallelujahs" rising. Thanksgiving always seems to smooth out the rough road for me. It lifts my sightline and keeps my focus on what is real, rather than temporary.Read More
Today I woke up feeling the frenzy of my to do list, and a low rumbling anxiety about all that appears to be on my plate. However, I knew that that was not what I wanted to feel, so I circled back around and took stock.
For heaven sakes, in a couple of days we are closing on the purchase of a home after six years of relocations and change. A new sense of thankfulness couldn't help but rise up loud and strong instantly restoring my giddiness!
This has been a long season of letting go, free falling, forward movement in the form of rest, acceptance, realignment and learning a whole new level of self-care that I had never known and that I can only give myself. It has also been a season of cultivating thankfulness.Read More
As a kid I had a natural bent toward discovery. You probably did too. I was naturally creative, expressing life through art, singing, song writing, dance, jewelry fabrication, acting, writing and imagining an unlimited world.
By the time I was sixteen, I had an insatiable hunger for curiosity and learning, and began reading books that expressed ideas I didn’t find being explored in classrooms, pulpits, at home or through the many innovative thought leaders of our day. I couldn’t get enough of the ‘Self-help’ section in bookstores offering up thoughts on spirituality, successful living and creative thinking long before I'd heard of the coaching profession. I was a proactive seeker looking for answers and tools to navigate life.
It wasn’t until recently that I recognized this natural bent and curiosity around the way people think and the structures that have caused the perceptions and the stories we make up. Like many grown up women I've spent a great deal of time dancing between my natural wide-eyed curiosity and trying to appease puritanical poo pooing that refuses to challenge the way we think and what we think we know. That dance is exhausting and only keeps us disconnected from who we truly are.Read More
As women sometimes we shuffle along in our own world forgetting that there's someone next door, across the street, or across town feeling the same internal tugs that we're feeling. Often we banish those tugs to the corner, like Cinderella feeling alone in her room.
Then suddenly something magical happens. We put ourselves in connection with other women and allow ourselves to be seen. We show up true, leaving behind the camouflage of "supposed to" and "appropriate" that's hidden us for so long.Read More
Often we don’t know that we’re in resistance, because our patterns and internal stories are so familiar that we don't not recognize how they’re hindering us. Ever feel like you’re in a vortex that keeps spinning around? The same old stuff surfaces, causing you to feel trapped and unable to get out. You think the rest of the world is jumping over hurdles like a champ, while you’re struggling with what feels like an invisible barrier barring your access. Guess what, there is a barrier! The barrier is fear.Read More
Like many, I loved the 90’s head bopping boy band, Nsync that introduced the world to Justin Timberlake. But even as the band discovered, staying on top of what it takes to remain in sync is a challenge. If we ignore the clues signaling issues and resistance, we are likely to hit up against a wall. Often those that are action oriented, end up barreling through into misaligned territory, and incorrect fits with ego at the lead.
Facing change, challenges, and shifts isn’t easy, so sometimes we opt to move into a fear-based mode of operation to manage or avoid our uneasiness. Because fear and ego are bedmates, you won't find one without the other unless there's intentional mindfulness.