Recently I was asked to sit on a panel of mom’s with adult kids, to share our pearls with younger moms. As I looked around the round I noticed the variety of women in all sizes, shapes, backgrounds, temperaments, experiences and abilities. It was there that the falsehood of one-size-fits-all parenting, or life-ing seemed more magnified than usual.
What I heard were not techniques on mama-ing, but more ways of being and seeing. I’ve heard it said about parenting that things are caught more than taught. That’s why it does little good to parrot one thing, while doing something else. Like it or not, what our kids have caught is actually what we’ve done. This means they’ve not only caught our incongruences, but have caught wonderful unique gifts that we don’t even recognize we’re gifting to them.Read More