In Western culture shutting down our inner world to turn on the hustle is the acceptable norm over experiencing all the feelings. There’s a big difference between truly sitting with deep emotions and plastering on ‘happy’ to distract ourselves from our pain. Guess what? I’m not a proponent of counterfeit happiness.Read More
Today I woke up feeling the frenzy of my to do list, and a low rumbling anxiety about all that appears to be on my plate. However, I knew that that was not what I wanted to feel, so I circled back around and took stock.
For heaven sakes, in a couple of days we are closing on the purchase of a home after six years of relocations and change. A new sense of thankfulness couldn't help but rise up loud and strong instantly restoring my giddiness!
This has been a long season of letting go, free falling, forward movement in the form of rest, acceptance, realignment and learning a whole new level of self-care that I had never known and that I can only give myself. It has also been a season of cultivating thankfulness.Read More
For most of life I have been arm-wrestling with the propriety police. You know the rule keepers that make up the rules and make sure everyone adheres to them. The policers that tell folks not to wear white past Labor Day, stay small and invisible, don’t make a scene, always adhere to respectable “good girl” behavior, whether it's your own hoop jumping tendencies or what others try to define for you.
For some years I worked my darnedest to appease these "policers", as if I might earn a bag of gold (middle child syndrome.) In the old days parroting was easy for me. I was an actress for heaven sake; I can bullshit with the best of them.
Then I recognized the ridiculousness of adhering to values that weren't mine. In fact, the least (doesn’t even make the list) would be the attributes of the demure and lady-like. When I'm all about getting untamed and free, why would I bow and scrape to earn approval I already possess by the mere fact that I exist?Read More
Today, my Sis and I head out for the final preparations for our first, long awaited Delta Sisters Retreat that begins on Thursday at our family farm. As challenging as this launch has been, I am determined to saver every minute of it.
In the past, I haven't always celebrated my accomplishments, perhaps because those surrounding me weren't always cheering. Nevertheless, I am learning to be my own cheerleader and twirl around in the light of my Maker's giddy acceptance, approval and down right delight in my accomplishments. I am learning to nurture my childlike heart again.
In fact, a few nights ago, before I fell a sleep, I heard the phrase, "What if you couldn't mess up?" I instantly thought about the way a good daddy's loves his little girl, beaming with acceptance no matter how many times she falls down learning to walk, or how many flat notes she sings in her spontaneous and exuberant sing-song-play.Read More
We don’t find out who we are through the eyes of others. We recognize the life of the Maker, whose signature and identity is stamped and residing within our being. It’s this beautiful recognition that will transcend the doubts in our head and the stories we’ve believed about ourselves, so we can connect with the truth about who we are.
“Discovery and recognition of the permanent identity causes it to rise to the surface like a cork which has been held under water and suddenly released.” Walter Lanyon, The Eyes of the Blind
Measuring our ability to love or be loved by those standing with us is a misconception that keeps us looking outwardly for validation instead of at the already magnificent acceptance and delight of the One who created us.Read More
Opening Amy Poehler’s book, Yes Please I see an image of her rather glowing Kindergarten progress report. I am reminded that most of us need encouragement and so we look outwardly for other’s acknowledgment to bolster ourselves up, until we learn to give ourselves the gold star of affirmation that we need.
In truth I think we’d all like to stockpile and shellac all the beautiful words, comments and gold stars others have given us on the wall of our home as trophies on display. We look outwardly for validation instead of resting inwardly in our already validated worth.Read More
We’ve stumbled upon something of great importance when we recognize the thing that we never tire of doing whether we receive applause, support, or finances for it. And when we’re able to stop judging ourselves, or determining our value based on other’s recognition, employment or validation of it, we will truly be happy.
For a long time I lamented over the lack of success I had experienced surrounding some of my gifting. Then being sidelined from most business activity for a season I found myself joyfully creating art, writing and supporting women despite the influx of revenue.
It was then that I recognized that no matter how the world defined success, I would always be successful if I showed up and gave myself happily to what made me come alive. It was then that I gave myself the self-permission, self-acceptance, and self-validation to define success on my own terms. This perspective has grown with me into busier times.