I Suck at Asking for Help!

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Recently I gave myself the assignment to practice asking for help. Because of my early conditioning, parental inversion, being the "mini grownup" with a knack for earning love and approval by not “needing” or “making demands,” I have an ugly little built-in reflex that causes me to do just about anything to avoid asking for help.

I’ve always had the strong and admirable ability appearance of managing to propel myself forward with tenacity and persistence, sucking it up dutifully and pridefully instead of asking for help. Ugh!

It’s funny how gifts can arrive in unusual packages. After several years of transitions causing me to feel marooned on an island of lonesome, the discomfort of isolation has grown to the same level as my discomfort of asking for help. Instead of defaulting to the coping method of trying to make it on my own, suddenly I’m willing to face the risk to move beyond my current barrier for the reward of support, collaboration and friendship. Although I still breakout in a sweat as the words spill out of my mouth, I’m learning to ask for help! 

I started by reaching out to some old friends for love and support. This has given me a bit of success to stay in the game. Now the scary part-asking you for help! 

Through my coaching work with women I've come to understand that few of us are really good at asking for help, so I am sticking with the process and sticking my neck out here. I'm expanding this personal assignment into a practicum for the Higher Ground Leadership® Credential Program, created by leadership trainer, Lance Secretan that am I taking part in.

My practicum entitled: 30 Days of Authentic Creative Expression will consist of art journaling for 30 days with the possibility of a few videos thrown in too. For thirty days I will focus on the CASTLE® Principles, made up of the values that create the acronym for CASTLE: Courage, Authenticity, Service, Truthfulness, Love and Effectiveness. From that space, I will daily draw a card from the Spirit@Work® Cards, a 77 card deck of values and daily art journal about what the word, principle and description means to me in the moment. Then I will share it with you on my Facebook biz page, so be sure to follow along at www.facebook.com/kimberbritnerbiz. Not only am I excited about collaborating with others on this project and into 2014, but also further expanding my 2013 theme of inner congruence and inner work. This past year has been a huge year of growth and I am grateful that I've taken time for inner work instead of merely focusing on outer goals.

This is where I ask for your help! I would love your help spreading the word, asking others you know on Social Media to join the fun, as well as your own daily engagement, input and support. In fact, you might want to follow along journaling on your own in some way. Share your discoveries and your big wins, as I share mine. The point of creating this particular exercise as a practicum for myself is that I want to extend the bridge of engagement, friendship, collaboration and support, as I practice asking for help! I want to expand my capacity in this area through this project and in the New Year. How about you? Would you like to expand along with me?

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If you would like to join in to lend your moral support, cheer or participate, and receive feedback on where you are too, please follow along and comment on my daily Facebook and art journaling posts at: www.facebook.com/kimberbritnerbiz!  

If you would like to dive in deeper, add the Spirit@Work®  app to your phone for only 99 cents. Simply search for Lance Secretan, Spirit@Work® Cards App and you can incorporate a bit more inspiration and value reflection into your daily life. Just so you know, I get no residual for promoting this App.

For those who truly jump on board as a cheerleader, or journaling participant, there will be prizes and surprises awarded to the most active participants! (Yes, I’m resorting to incentives and bribery in asking for help! :)

Thanks for playing along and thanks for your support! Get ready for January 1st start date with pencil and paper, journal and paint, or merely your own perfect presence! Let's celebrate creativity, the value of our inner wealth, playing full out in 2014 and the power of supportive community!  I look forward to seeing you on Facebook as I begin 30 Days of Authentic Creative Expression beginning January 1st!

 

 

Are You Living Below Value

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When I was in my early twenties struggling with an eating disorder, a young male testosterone driven friend shared with me his view of the world.

He said, “All the girls with eating disorders are so easily influenced (he really meant to get into bed) because they have such poor self-esteem and don’t realize how pretty they are. You simply tell them they're pretty and they’re yours.” 

I have never forgotten his perspective or his words.

Some of us are living below the truth about who we are. Some of us have settled for a much lesser perspective about ourselves than what is true, what is good, or what is right. Some of us need to change our mind about the way we see the world and ourselves and break old agreements; some of us need an upgrade!

What if we changed our mind- instead of living from a reactive, below-value-ridden perspective, we began to influence ourselves differently?  What if we actually shifted our perspective? What if the internal influences that have driven our perspectives changed and we began to take responsibility for driving our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves? What if we gave ourselves the benefit of the doubt?

Are you wondering, “How do I do that?”

Once when grief was attached to me like a fly on sticky paper, I heard an invitation in my being to choose joy. I didn’t feel joyful, but I chose to follow along, because I wanted to be free of the pain.I was encouraged to think of everything that made me happy and joyful in my lifetime. Suddenly I felt a change-taking place on the inside, as memories stirred and butterflied around my stomach.  My countenance shifted and a genuine smile emerged on my face. This gave me a new track to follow instead of the old familiar groove that had been etched in my consciousness, as I choose to be deliberate in shifting the track of my thinking.  To this day, I practice directing my thoughts.

Should you think I haven’t experienced the pain that you have and that this is a fluffy remedy, I have experienced a good deal of heartbreak and loss in my life and sometimes-painful memories surface. While I believe there is a real need to process through emotions and grief, rather than denying them, there is a point when its time to choose.

After loosing a husband to cancer, a mother to mental illness and a brother to suicide on Christmas, burying him on my birthday four days later, I have been intentional about taking back the holidays and my life by creating an entirely different track for myself. 

Does this sound easy? It's not necessarily easy, but all it takes is a willingness to be willing to see things differently. By putting on a different pair of lenses, we show ourselves kindness. Choosing an upgrade means receiving a greater measure of love and personally I can't do that without divine assistance. Do you need an upgrade in your thinking? Try changing the way you think.

Covered In Armor

ID-100159496Unchanging stance, feet sure and armor high describes “vulnerability armor.”  Brene’ Brown writes about this armor in her book, Daring Greatly, as something we use to shield ourselves from feeling vulnerable and exposed.

She goes on to describes what many of us have felt when we’ve vulnerably stepped out from our own armor and someone else’s protective covering turned into a weapon of “cruelty,” “cool” or “criticism” used to keep “vulnerability at a distance” and injure us for making them uncomfortable.

Brown says, “If we are the kind of people who “don’t do vulnerability,” there’s nothing that makes us feel more threatened and more incited to attack and shame people than to see someone daring greatly. Someone else’s daring provides an uncomfortable mirror that reflects back our own fears about showing up, creating, and letting ourselves be seen.”

I used to be a black and white thinker protected behind my armor. I used to be certain about everything I believed and thought. I guess you could say I was certain to be judgmental and opinionated!

Over the last few years, the way I think and see expands regularly. I am constantly confounded, glimpsing a more expansive reality than I ever imagined. My opinions (I still have them) are held loosely. My judgments are more often passed on to the man upstairs to handle. I have definitive values, beliefs and practices, but I choose to see them enlarge, rather than remain stagnant, closed off, or brittle like an old wineskin.Photo: freedigitalphotos 

I am comfortable with the fact that my perceptions and opinions may change from day to day. I am comfortable with the fact that I have previously written things I no longer agree with, or at least would communicate differently. I no longer need to live in an “either”, “or”, “good guy”, “bad guy” reality. I happily live in a more inclusive world of “and.”

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to reduce life to my ability to comprehend it. In the grand scheme of things, it’s clear there’s little any of us fully comprehends. I find it liberating to let go of the armor and the misperceived weight on my shoulders, thinking I need to be managing, fixing or micro-managing the world. This lighter perspective keeps me open and growing in new ways. It keeps me out of dogma and rhetoric and in childlike, wide-eyed wonder and discovery. It keeps me living in the present willing to reveal my imperfections. 

With this frame of reference I clue into my intuition faster. When rhetoric and pontification begin to spout, my awareness quickly signals. I understand that I have a choice to engage in an inflexible argument or reserve energy for those open and desiring true relationship and authenticity.

What about you? Do you hide behind your dogma-armor? Do you find yourself staying open to discussion, discovery and valuing relationship above all, or are you entrenched and hell bent on winning the game point?

If you want to move into the world of expansive possibility and opportunity, choose to come out from behind your armor. Practice vulnerably. Experience life through the eyes and heart of a child. A good place to start is by reading Untamed Heart, Releasing Your Creative Genius. Order here now![product id="2047" sku=""]

I Care About What the Neighbors Think

Abundance 1Most of us long to be loved and accepted. In an attempt to gain acceptance we often concern ourselves with the opinion of others. It’s quite human to care about what people think. The problem is when rather than gaining awareness around this tendency, we shame others or ourselves for it. When we disassociate from our humanity we create the problem of disconnecting from our personhood.

Maybe you've heard the message that the “a fear of man” is a bad quality to possess, when in reality it is a very human trait. It would certainly be helpful to take note when we're focusing outwardly on others opinions, wondering, “What will the neighbors, the relatives, or those folks think?” However, when we demonstrate compassion toward this very human tendency we free ourselves from trying to hide it, so we can get clear about the internal wealth that we actually possess.

Acceptance allows us to be real, vulnerable and own that, “Yes, I care about what you might think of me, because I want to be loved and accepted, but I will give myself the self nurture I need by looking within for my value.” Shaming this behavior prolongs it and maintains the need to appear above it.

 If you are like me and occasionally take the temperature of the room to see what others are thinking, give yourself a break. Recognize that you already have the best approval around by the mere fact that you exist. Ease into acceptance, let go and don’t shame yourself for being human.

Are You In Dis-ease?

ID-10090284For years I have been on a journey of eating well and learning to understand myself from the inside out. I find it fascinating that the body has three major organs that come into contact with the outside world: the skin, lungs and digestive tube. These organs act as borders, so to speak as they process outside elements.

Did you know that we actually have two brains?  Dr. Alejandro Junger said in his book, Clean Gut,

“The brain in your head is the hardware for your thoughts. But when you experience a “gut feeling” or intuition, the tiny sparks of electricity show up within the neurons in your second brain. While your first brain serves as your intellectual hardware, your second brain-the gut-is your spiritual and emotional GPS.”

Our body gives us a magnificent picture of the way we process. We have a system designated to process and break down food into smaller pieces, but think about the little thought we give to the overall work our body does to process outside stimuli that is translated into information and emotion.

Pour digestion is the current epidemic. Many illnesses steam from a diseased gut, or dis-eased gut and yet the modern way is to pile on prescriptions and never take the time to investigate what is going on below the surface. We never uncover the root cause of our dis-ease.

 A wise woman once said, “All unexpressed emotions come out sideways.” Imagine how our unrealized and unexpressed emotions cause dis-ease within ourselves, be it blockages, irritated and inflamed tissues, obesity and the list goes on.

It’s easy to ignore what’s hidden beneath the surface. What's out of sight and out of mind may not merely be food assimilation, but the emotional and spiritual climate of our interior world.

The lack of attention to the interior world is the true epidemic many a dis-eased gut mirrors. How are you addressing the areas in your life where there is dis-ease? Are you giving as much attention to your inner world as you do your outer world?

The time to invest in your inner world is before it demands attention. Here are some practical ways to process what you are taking in: invest in a life coach; a coaching program focused on your inner well-being, or at the least read books that will begin to enlarge your inner consciousness.

For a complementary coaching session email me at: kimber@moxieme.com (only serious coaching candidates apply to determine if we might be a good fit.)

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5 Myths "Good Girl's" Believe

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There are structures in life that keep us silenced, separated from ourselves and disconnected from our true self. One such structure is what I refer to as the “Good Girl” Syndrome. Although this structure can look noble on the outside, it is a troublesome little structure that maneuvers around the enormous elephant in the room.

This seemingly noble "Good Girl" persona is fueled through mixed messages, fear and the need to be loved. The trade off for the prize of love causes a disconnection from one's true personhood. The sad truth is: the means always outweighs the payoff. Prostituting of oneself keeps the "Good Girl" in captivity.

 

Here are the 5 myths "Good Girls" fall for in believing "Good Girl" behavior will earn them love.

 1. I Won’t Make Waves

If I don’t make waves I will be loved and accepted. The truth is if you are only loved because you are invisible you aren’t being loved. If you have to keep small, keep quiet, or placate and comply consistently to keep the peace, what you are doing is not associated with true peace or harmony in any way! This is considered playing small. Live and play big or go home!

 

2. I’ll Live with an Outward Focus Rather than Inward Focus

If I measure my actions based on what others expect of me or how they react to me (become a human thermometer) I can control my world. "Good Girls" are the top micro-managers. In an attempt to control their world, they avoid facing their ego-driven existence and trade-off for their true self. This coping method is formulated in early childhood and will eventually lead to burnout. We don’t have the ability to control the world or those in it, but we do have the power to control our reactions. Decisively choose how will you allow others to affect you or engage with you, as well as how you engage with the world.

 

3. I’ll Give Everyone Else the Benefit of the Doubt

The myth that authority figures should be protected no matter what keeps the "Good Girl" living as a victim and sets up abuse, or unhealthy relationships with those she gives her power to. This keeps the "Good Girl" fixing, care-taking, and giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt. While making what appear to be heroic concession for others “shortcomings” she abdicates her own life and power. Taking responsibility for your life puts and end to the victim trap.

 

4. I Must Sacrifice My Life for the Good of Others

By focusing on everyone else I will be offering a great service and gift to the world. The truth is focusing on everyone else is an excuse "Good Girls" use so they don’t have to pay attention to or take responsibility for their own needs, desires, choices, or fears. This is the way "Good Girls" put off and defer their life to others, unwilling to take responsibility for what they truly want. Being a living martyr is old school!  Abdicating one's life is not the same as giving it away. Claim your personal power. Make intentional choices about what you want and what you believe.  Activate personal ownership.

 

5. I Will Please

When others are happy with me I find a sense of wellbeing and a sense of myself. This is a terrible myth. You never find yourself through someone else, or your own powerlessness. You find your identity by owning your uniqueness and by knowing that the one who created you unequivocally loves you.  Pleasing others to gain approval is a sign of disloyalty to oneself. This kind of personal betrayal is hurtful and the most painful betrayal of all. Let go of the need to please for the perceived payoff it brings. Stand up on the inside and love yourself first! Claim your power!

 

These top 5 ingredients make a toxic cocktail that "Good Girls" drink!

 

Acknowledgement is the first step to healing. Then practice being kinder than you’ve ever been to yourself. Put off all outer service and commotion for a season to abstain from performance and duty. Take good care of the "Good Girl" so you can let go of the illusion, come home to your true self and get untamed!

If you would like a complementary coaching session to purse the possibilities in your life, contact me at: Kimber@moxieme.com

 

 

 

What Are You Seeing?

ID-100170974We see life through our own particular lens and because of this our worlds can be very small. Why not? When we were kids it was all about us. We never even noticed that our parents might have been struggling, or that our neighbors were unhappy. We thought everyone saw what we saw and believed what we believed. If we thought the sky was green we were certain everyone else did too.

 It's interesting that sometimes it takes a life-altering event to shift our lens. At first the lens might be narrowly focused, but somewhere along the way we may notice our perception expanding. Suddenly we are aware of others who might be hurting too. We have a new sense of compassion. Although hurting people existed previously our lens was so narrowly focused we couldn’t see them. Suddenly our lens expands to see a larger perspective.

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The same is true of many things we currently see through our lens. We might think everybody sees the way we do until we learn that our persecution is our perception. We honor others when we allow them to hold their own perspectives without insisting that our lens is the only lens, because clearly it is not.

If you were a kid who painted the sky green and your art teacher insisted that it must be blue, I am sorry, for clearly she was seeing through her interpretation and lens.

The more secure we become about our identity apart from external titles and roles the more we will be comfortable with others differing views. We won’t feel the need to dogmatically plaster our perspective, or lingo on others. We will be more open to ask questions and genuinely understand someone instead of making assumptions about whether they are an inside or outsider. Suddenly the need to be the winner will fade and we will find our vantage point expanding as we ourselves expand and grow.

Take notice of the invitation and challenge to expand your lens. In what area are you being challenged to grow? Practice taking off all restrictors to situations and becoming open to unlimited possibilities. What possibilities exist with an expanded lens?

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"Reading this book was like going on a vacation with my heart and coming home with a suitcase full of dreams. It was a joyful reminder of what I really want my life to be about and encouragement to live abundantly. I want to give a copy to every person I know!" Diane 

"Untamed Heart was like a match to light my creative spirit! I enjoyed it so much and it made me happy! It is a book that I will return to when I need that extra encouragement to overcome any fears that might hold me back. Thank you Kimber for your inspiration!" Shawna

How To Make What You Don't Know Work For You

IMG_1888I confess I am a repeat offender when it comes to misuse of verbiage. I’m one that causes the grammar police to cringe reading my posts on Facebook. Does that stop me? Heck no!

Years ago dining with a pastor and group of his friends I casually threw out the word Gonad! Can you believe it? Yes I did! Suddenly silence rolled over the group of alarmed parishioners. Of course when I got home my husband explained that the slang I used to reference an idiotic person technically was defining male anatomy rarely mentioned in church!

Another time I spoke of my shoe fetish and was informed by yet another pastor/friend that the word fetish was not relevant to shoes, because it referred to sorcery and sexual fixations.

You’d think those two encounters alone would have stopped me in my tracks and sparked an immediate case of laryngitis, but boldly I continue to speak and write. The truth is you just don’t know what you don’t know!

In the same manner I regularly grab my spot in the front of my Zumba class so I have a good view and can attempt to copy every move the instructor makes. I learn by getting in the thick of things, so I’ve never considered standing in the back of the room where others might prefer to hangout.

The truth is many people are waiting for permission. Permission to act, to think differently and to challenge what might not be working in their lives. I’ve been that person waiting for permission, waving the “good girl” flag looking for validation until I realized I was missing out on a whole lot of life.

I’ve heard it said, “Its easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.”

I’ve determined the best way to make what you don’t know work for you is to:

  • Give yourself permission to step out of your comfort zone. You can always ask for forgiveness later!
  • Don’t be afraid to challenge what you think, or what you think you think!
  • Step out even though you might make a mistake. It will give you something to laugh about later!
  • Realize you will learn a lot about life and yourself when you do.
  • Don’t worry if you’re politically correct. Define how you want to play the game of life.

Is Your System Overrun With Too Much Waste?

Kimberism: "You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith." Mary Manin Morrissey Ashley the young woman who lives with us was telling me her childhood plunger woes. I laughed as she relayed her father’s distain for her childhood propensity to overload the toilet with excessive amounts of toilet paper. With exasperation she said, “You know there is a fine line between smooth sailing and backing up the whole plumbing system with one extra sheet of paper!” I gave her a nod of agreement. I too had a child that kept our plunger in use.

The line of conversation had me pondering the other areas in our lives that get stopped up from excess. The area that readily comes to mind is the excess of worry. Worry is sure stopper upper!  Worry shuts down all systems and keeps us blocked and over flowing with the castoffs of anxiety, fear, suspicion, ill-health, and distrust.

If you are like most of us, you need regular maintenance to make sure you’re not getting bogged down with the blockage of worry.

Here are 4 simple steps to keep things moving smoothly!

  1. Ask yourself if you are holding onto an assumption, or interpretation about life from a past story that needs to be flushed.
  2. Master your fears and worry by reframing your thinking.
  3. Exercise faith by relying in Someone greater than yourself to create possibilities in your circumstances.
  4. Act regularly by flushing the unwanted residue of worry in a timely manner, so you don’t have a backed-up system.

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Pushing Buttons

Kimberism: When your buttons get triggered it is about you not the other person. We all have internal buttons that remain unnoticed until they get triggered. A common response when a button gets triggered is anger and the inclination to strike out, blame or attack. When buttons get triggered rather than choosing to action, we often find ourselves reacting. Do you recognize the tendency to lash out at others, or lash out inwardly when your buttons get triggered?

Buttons get pushed when a sensitive area is touched, as if pressure is placed on an old injury. When you feel your pulse beginning to rise its helpful to stop and ask yourself what you are afraid of. Although the emotion you feel may not seems to relate to fear, if you look a deeper you might found that the root is based in fear. Stepping back from the emotion and evaluating the can begin to defuse it.

Recently my buttons were pushed and my response was most definitely to lash out and defend myself. However, I began to recognize that the person pushing my buttons was only doing so because her buttons had been pushed. Her fears were causing her to guard her turf, which triggered my own reactions. When I recognized this I was able to take a deep breath, and let go of the offense. It doesn't mean that the issues are resolved, but it does mean that I will choose how I want to respond rather than reacting.

The next time your buttons get triggered try asking yourself, "What fear is being triggered by the circumstance?" and then choosing how you want to act rather than react. Pushing may help to defuse your pushed button.

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Dreaming the Dream

Kimberism: “A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.” John Barrymore I love to dream. I’m not merely speaking of dreaming with my heart, but dreaming at night. It’s amazing to me that I can be passively sleeping and receive inspiration through a dream.

Last night I had a dream that caused me to awake with excitement. It reminded me that no matter how difficult times may be we must strive to stay connected to our joy. In the dream I saw a teleprompter broadcasting the phrase, “Turn your black and white dreams in for Technicolor.”

When times are difficult it is easy to be tempted to shut down, or throw out ones dreams. However, in my dream I was being encouraged to turn up the brightness, not dumb down my dreams.

In the 1998 film Pleasantville, life was in black and white until people’s hearts began to be awakened. Suddenly the whole town started coming to life, but not without ample resistance. There will always be circumstances to challenge our dreams. However, during times of difficulty its not time to do away with dreaming, its time to unleash our greatest creativity!

What are you doing to stoke the embers of your dreams? How are you keeping the fire of your passion alive?

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Self-Coaching Your Way to Rejuvenation

Kimberism: A quieted mind is a timely cup of comfort to a weary soul. After a transition, packing up, moving and scrubbing every possible surface one more time, I am exhausted. Although I wish someone would drop by our house, drag me out and douse me with an evening of rejuvenation and laughter, it is unlikely that a platter of R&R, or a banquet of fun will arrive at my door. Therefore, I recognize that I have to put myself in fun’s way. Self-coaching comes in handy in moments like these when I am too drained to think of how to do that. Follow along for a brief coaching conversation.

Kimber as coach: "What do you find fun and rejuvenating?"

Kimber as client: "I love alfresco lunches in a beautiful garden or at the beach, taking an afternoon nap curled up outside on a blanket, attending a raucous concert with my hubby, reading a book fireside, fresh cut flowers, and time spent with girl friends over dinner."

With a simple check-in I have discovered several possible feel good activities for rejuvenating my body, mind and spirit.

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Gratitude Helps Alter Attitude and Altitude

Kimberism: Gratitude alters attitude and altitude The closest I’ve ever felt to homelessness is in this transition of moving out of our current rental in Los Angeles to a nearby area where we haven't yet found a place. I realize this doesn’t compare to actual homelessness knowing we have friends, family or a hotel to rely on in the interim. However, like most people, I don’t care for the unknown.

The unknown is the place of limbo, circling the runway indefinitely without knowledge of an approaching takeoff. However distasteful the unknown is to me, I understand that it is territory that we need to become increasingly comfortable with. The unknown is where we learn to truly exercise faith, and not merely lip service.  From the unknown vision emerges, vision takes flight and new things are birthed as we push through the darkness into the hope of what lies ahead.

When I feel as if my life is closing in on me, I take the coaching advice I offer clients.

  • I zoom out to gain a bigger perspective.
  • I try to remember other times that were difficult and yet were met with ample faithfulness and provision.
  • I challenge my inability to see or perceive through imagining the possibilities in my circumstance and by exercising gratitude.
  • I lean into the strength of the Upstairs Team.

Gratitude helps to alter my attitude and ultimately my altitude. How are you practicing gratitude in the midst of your current trials?

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Are You Storing Up Counterfeits?

Kimberism: "Three Rules of Work: Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity." Albert Einstein It’s amazing how a slight tweak in perspective renders something less valuable than it may have once seemed. A shiny trinket that once seemed the prize quickly looses its charm when faced with a new definition of value.

This year has been a significant year alignment. Like many I know I have been in the process of reevaluating the contents of my life. In the process I have discovered things within reach I thought I wanted suddenly lost their value and seemed to be merely fools gold. Although life and death situations give us a clear glimpse into what is truly valuable and important, subtle shifts can offer the same change in perspective. Ask a discontented millionaire if the value he holds lies in his wealth, or loved ones and you will most certainly understand one shift in perspective and the challenge for alignment.

Now in the midst of packing up boxes to make our move to Pasadena, I am faced with the constant choice of keeping or letting go. Moving provides a great opportunity to purge and reevaluate substance.

What are you holding onto that you need to let go of?  Have you been clinging to a counterfeit yet know its time to make room for what is real and holds true value? Take a moment and determine what you may be tolerating in your life and what needs to go. Determine what is of enduring value and what are counterfeits?

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"Different" Can Be a Plus!

Kimberism: Allow your weaknesses to make room for other's strengths. Do you ever feel like half the population doesn't get you? It’s probably because they don’t! For those that don’t possess your predominate tendencies you may appear different and even odd, but to those who do possess the same unique attributes, you will appear normal and even insightful!!

The things is we need all kinds, trail blazers and peacemakers alike. We need the exacting, detail of the meticulous, as well as the decisive, risk taking mode of adventurers.

We need each other. The day of the lone ranger is over. We need to have a team of those who help release us, as well as those that help balance us.  When we feel the angst of being in a holding pattern, we need the refreshment of others who are airborne. When flying laps around our circumstances we might need someone with a nurturing calm to help us land again.

Instead of looking at those who are different and not relating, try discerning the strengths each of you offer the other. © Copyright 2011 Moxie Me Institute, BE U LLC. All Rights Reserved WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE? To publish this article in your ezine or website please include the following blurb: Kimber Britner is president of Moxie Me Institute, Author, Speaker, Professional Coach and Innovation Expert. Moxie Me Institute helps heart-led women bring their greatness to the world by connecting them to their passion, purpose, and inspired vision. Join us to rev up your moxie and bliss!

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Are You Coloring Your World?

Kimberism: Help us to be ever faithful gardeners of the spirit, who know that without darkness nothing comes to birth, and without light nothing flowers. May Sarton The topic of gardening seems to be a reoccurring theme in my life, since it provides a vivid illustration of seasonal change. As much as most of us would like to bypass the long, cold days of winter when everything seems dead and lost, my friend Katie cherishes an annual highlight. During the depth of February when the days are short and the nights long, the earth frozen with no promise of springtime, her seed catalogs suddenly arrive. She and her husband Kelly snuggle underneath a warm blanket, flipping through the pages, imagining, planning and dreaming of their summertime garden.

How many of us are in a season when there seems to be no evidence of a blooming garden? If we hold on the season will shift and new growth with pop through the seemingly barren ground? One thing I have found to be helpful when I can't see the tangible results I desire is to imagine and decorate my life. When I am moving into a new house I always mentally decorate the house before I take possession. In the same way before I occupy new territory in my life Katie and I find coloring our world opens up new possibilities.

If you are in an in-between season and haven't yet seen the manifestations of your vision try:

  • to imagine what it will feel like when the new things you imagine come onto the scene
  •  imagine the colors, the smells, who you are with and even what you will be wearing when your dreams manifest
  • bring your vision into the present through collaging and journaling

Every vision begins as a seedling in the imagination. It will only grow if watered and well nurtured. No plan is accomplished without first having been an entertained thought. How are you coloring your world?

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Particular Graces

Kimberism: It is said that a person's gift makes room for him, but the room must first be made in our lives for the gift. Knowing that we each are gifted with particular graces and affinities pertaining to activities, talents and spheres of influence, I find it crucial that we understand our graces.

What knack, or way about you do you possess that others can’t quite fathom? Do you easily sail into a room and make friends, while some struggle with casual conversation? Do you navigate through unfamiliar territory easily as if you had a compass etched in your brain, while others can’t find their way out of paper bag? Do you effortlessly come up with ideas? Are you a prolific writer and see the world as a story?

All of these and a million others are what I refer to as particular graces. If you haven’t yet determined your particular graces its time your started identifying the things that make you unique. Instead of struggling to fit into the round hole, why not define your unique bent and enhance it. Don’t settle for blending in when you were made to stand out.

Although I try to stay organized, I organize something and can’t remember the system I organized it in! Maybe you can relate. Thankfully there are wonderfully gifted individuals who thrive with detail, who anchor and stabilize others. They see the world through a lens of order. If I spent my time trying to become this type of person I would absolutely forfeit my particular graces to activate and release.

Instead, I continue to foster new means and environments that allow my big picture thinking to thrive. I look for stimulus to release my strengths as a kite in the wind without allowing my weaknesses to tether me and pull me down.

Do you know what your graces are and are you leaning into them, rather than trying to be something that you are not?

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Are You Living In the Yes Reality?

Kimberism: Why not go out on a limb? That's where the fruit is. Mark Twain  The word yes is a welcomer. It never stops creating. Yes, you can have friends. Yes, you can be loved. Yes, you can be treasured.

Yes, means knowing there are possibilities even when you are unaware of them. Yes, means believing when jobs are limited that there are opportunities out there for you.

When people maneuver behind your back, Yes means never giving up on the kind of love that values you. In seasons when you're alone, Yes means letting Divine love apprehend, unravel and infill you. Yes, means being a risk taker rather than a comfort seeker, letting the chaos in your life undo you and renew you.

Yes, is a land of plenty if you are willing to live in the present and not get snagged on the past! Yes, champions you into the new if you're unwilling to settle for the old. How are you saying, "yes" to life?

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What Is Filling Your Atmosphere?

Kimberism: Be careful of your thoughts; they may become words at any moment. Ira Gassen  The Latin root of creation is “to bring forth.” Everything we see initially comes from the unseen realm. Something exists in the natural realm because it has been “brought forth” from the unseen realm.

God spoke and creation manifested. Now rather than thinking that creation is making something out of nothing, we could think of it as tapping into what already exists in heaven’s unlimited supply. Everything already exists though it has not yet been "brought forth."

Our words affect what manifests in our lives. Our words merely revel what is in our heart, faith, or doubt. Our words fill the atmosphere around us with faith, or defeat, belief, or unbelief. Although the fruit of our words may not be evident, they remain in the atmosphere until the time for them to bear fruit. The question is what kind of fruit will our words produce? What kind of things are we calling into being by our words?

Our words are like magnets that attract either life or death to any situation.  In response to our words, or prayers, spiritual forces are set into motion to bring them to pass. Prayer is affected in the spiritual realm before it is answered in the natural realm.

Are you calling in those things that are not as though they were through faith, or through fear and unbelief? Isn't it time we became aware of the atmosphere we are creating and “bringing forth” through our words? How are you "directing your heart in the way" by setting a guard over your thoughts and speech?

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