50 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger

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Sometimes it's important to take stock of what you know. Not for knowledge sake, but as an anchor during wobbly times.

Here is my recent list of 50 things I am sure of at this stage in life. I hold these as valuable treasures that I discovered along the journey. Sometimes I wish I had inherently known them, or had discovered them earlier, but if I had come upon them in another fashion they might not be as valuable to me as they are presently. These are things I want my daughter to know. These are things I want other women to know. These are things I hope you will consider yourself. However, I encourage you to make your own list. Determine what's important to you.


50 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger

  1. Your life is more than the contents of your outer world.
  2. Every living thing grows in cycles.
  3. During winter’s barrenness don’t look for a harvest. Understand that deep rooting is taking place.
  4. True happiness is an inside job; so don’t look for happiness externally. You were made for another world.
  5. Refuse to grow up and get stogy. It’s a trick. Stay young at heart.
  6. You will never truly be free if you don’t give yourself permission to be yourself.
  7. Your voice is unique. Don’t exchange it for a copy of someone else’s.
  8. Stop and evaluate every time you hear yourself say, “I should.”
  9. Live into your passion, not a counterfeit named duty.
  10. Mediocrity is never a good tradeoff for living out loud.
  11. Your perspective dictates your attitude. Your attitude dictates your altitude.
  12. Fear makes a lousy master. Own your moxie. Own your voice!
  13. It’s an honor and responsibility to direct your life in the way you want it to go.
  14. You have a built in meter that lets you know when you’re forfeiting your peace so you can realign to maintain peace at the core.
  15. Joy and inauthenticity cannot co-exist. Notice joy deficits.
  16. Ask for what you need and eliminate unspoken expectations. Conversely, it is not your responsibility to make others happy.
  17. Forgiveness is an absolute for a vibrant life.
  18. People add joy to your life, but they don’t define you.
  19. God’s unconditional love is the anchor of life.
  20. Unashamedly express and give the unique gift you carry.
  21. Stress doesn’t come from circumstances, but your reaction to them.
  22. Fitness is a lifestyle. Get outside and run around.
  23. It’s all about love. 
  24. Creativity gets blocked when you betray yourself.
  25. Putting off your dreams puts them off.
  26. Live life as a celebration and make it a party.
  27. Define for yourself what you want your life to look like.
  28. Don’t fill your life with space holders. Make room for what you truly want.
  29. Live with gratitude and you will find you have more to be grateful for.
  30. Don't be afraid to make waves. Resist anyone or thing that tries to silence you.
  31. Don’t wait to be given flowers, buy your own.
  32. Nurture yourself with good, healthy food everyday.
  33. Create your own fun.
  34. Change your mind and your perspective changes.
  35. A man that cheats on his wife to be with you is a cheater. You deserve more.
  36. Give yourself the same benefit of the doubt you give to others.
  37. Rain or shine joy begins on the inside.
  38. Be honest with yourself about what you want.
  39. Define and experience happy feelings and recreated them often.
  40. “No” is a powerful word. Use it to clarify your “yeses”, but not as an excuse to withhold or avoid adventure and possibility.
  41. Sometimes you discover who you are not on the way to who you are.
  42. True identity: knowing you are completely loved and accepted by God.
  43. Your body is beautiful, so enjoy it at every stage. When you are older you will surely wish you understood this earlier!
  44. Hope is a song that keeps your light alive.
  45. Surround yourself with those who celebrate you and not those who shame you.
  46. Life is short. Don’t waste time trying to fit in and be liked. Remember your identity is based in God’s love alone.
  47. You are not your job, your looks, or your bank account. You are a unique expression of love.
  48. Get untamed, stay untamed and live untamed. Let your wild beauty sing like notes from a trumpet.
  49. If you are depressed find out why. Unrealized emotions can wreck havoc within. Get honest with yourself.
  50. Love yourself first, so you can receive and give love back.

Is It Dead?

Kimberism: “Prune-prune businesses, products, activities, people. Do it annually. ” Donald Rumsfeld “Is it dead?” was the question that popped into my head, somehow acknowledging a similar camaraderie with the bare branches on a sparse looking tree? Then I heard in my spirit, “Its important to know the times and the seasons.”

Years ago my bedroom window overlooked the corner where two streets met. Outside my window I could see the street signs named, Bearmore and Palace. During my widowhood when I looked out the window and saw those signs, instead of dreading a season of what often felt like confinement, I choose to shift my perspective to being tucked away in a palace in preparation for a season of fruitful.

Its important to know what season your in. Often we look for fruit out of season. During a winter season its time for pruning. It’s not the time for fruitfulness, but the precursor for a fruitful season.

Do you need to look at your seasons of seeming barrenness differently? When you feel as if you can’t see anything happening on the horizon, imagine that you’re tucked away in the palace quarters in preparation for your season of fruitfulness. How can you shift your perspective?

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Emptiness Preempts Fullness

Kimberism: "Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend." Melody Beattie After a long year of transitioning from a life where everything was comfortable, the house, the work and the community of long time friendships, into the transition of starting over in all arenas, I became increasingly aware of an interesting dynamic. When life feels seemingly empty there is plenty of room for vast possibilities. Seasons of barrenness are in fact what preempt growth and fullness.

In the book Transformissional Coaching by Steve Ogne and Tim Roehl they describe the process of change as:

Stage 1: Stability-where life is working fine to....

Stage 2: Discontinuity-when the old way is working less well, to...

Stage 3:-Disembedding-when we feel the current system is unsupportable, to...

Stage 4: Transition-when we haven't yet left the old or quite entered the new, to...

Stage 5: Reformation-when we decide to go for it in the new world.

Upon moving to our new home where the back yard was totally bare, I began having visions of what could be. I saw trellises of flowers climbing up the back fence, and lavish flowers cascading throughout the yard. Suddenly the barrenness of the back yard wasn’t so daunting. I understood that rather than contriving to manufacture and fill the void in certain areas of my life, I could allow room for new growth and vision to emerge organically.

If you are in a season of transition where you’re life appears to be gapping with emptiness, look past the physical into the creative realm where all possibility exists. Open yourself up for a paradigm shift where new things will emerge. Let your barrenness make way for growth that ultimately will fill and reform your place of emptiness. © Copyright 2011 Moxie Me Institute, BE U LLC. All Rights Reserved WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE? To publish this article in your ezine or website please include the following blurb: Kimber Britner is president of Moxie Me Institute, Author, Speaker, Professional Coach and Innovation Expert. Moxie Me Institute helps heart-led women bring their greatness to the world by connecting them to their passion, purpose, and inspired vision. Join us to rev up your moxie and bliss!

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