Day 10-Transformation, 30 Days of Creative Expression

Day 10

I believe TRANSFORMATION begins with a change in perception. As perceptions change, the old way of viewing the world in an “either”, “or”, mindset, gives way to greater possibility and wholeness.

Inspiration is important, but TRANSFORMATION is even more powerful. If we're merely to stay in the reality that we currently exist, in a mindset that this is it, we fail to comprehend the vastness that exists beyond our mere rational understanding. TRANSFORMATION moves one into a new realm of awareness and experience beyond what can be seen with natural sight and understanding.

Richard Rohr wrote,

“We need to rediscover the Sic et Non approach in our politics and in our churches. Otherwise, I do not know what we are offering the world except violence, because angry conversation creates angry minds and angry hearts and eventually angry behavior. It seems to me that we have the possibility from our own Tradition of raising up the capacity for humane, dialogical, Sic et Non conversations—where I do not need to prove that you are wrong. I do not need to pretend that I am totally right. I can keep my mind and my heart open.

Dualistic people use knowledge, even religious knowledge, for the purposes of ego enhancement, shaming, and the control of others and themselves. Non-dual people use knowledge for the transformation of persons and structures, but most especially to change themselves and to see reality with a new eye and heart.”

Lance Secretan wrote for the TRANSFORMATION SPIRIT@WORK® Card, a tool he uses with corporate leadership,

“During the decades ahead, we will see spiritual transformations unfold that today can only be imagined….We are at the end of an old-story human paradigm that viewed power as something to be exploited, as a means to control, as a weapon with which to intimidate others. In this age of Consciousness, power is founded on an attitude of abundance; it is spiritual, not material or physical power, and it is a divine resource residing in, and available, to us all. It is just waiting to be nourished and shared. This is a power that we have not even been able to imagine before-and it is sacred.”

How would the idea of TRANSFORMATION preceded by a change of heart and perception move you out of your logical understanding into a deeper realm?

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Paradox Not Parabox!

BoxRecently I read a post on Facebook stating that we can’t trust what we feel. The post caused me to reflect on the amazing paradoxes that exist in life. While I certainly have identified many feelings that have proven to be: False Evidence Appearing Real, (most recently the notion that the bristliness I have experienced in some settings was a reflection of my lovability), I have also experienced the converse.

My biggest ah ha this year has been around my need for increased authenticity and self-care in listening to what my gut is instinctually telling me. In so doing, I allow myself to show up more present and truthful.

Another current day paradox is the notion that resistance is equivalent to fear and so one must bulldoze ahead through fear, but I have discovered that resistance is often a messenger telling me that something within is out of alignment with what I’m trying to do. I have discovered that my resistance is often beckoning me to take a deeper look at what my gut is broadcasting.

The key here is determining if you are a type that struggles to move forward and take action, hence the tendency to stay buried beneath fear; an action oriented person with a tendency to hide behind activity; or a combination of the two.

Life is a paradox. What might be positive in some situations can conversely be harmful at other times, or to other people. Living in life’s contradictions takes both awareness and willingness to let go of what ego likes to perceive as control, or a prescription for the “one way” route.

Once we are aware of any given paradox, we can allow others and ourselves the grace to live outside of the box.

Keys to Stability When Your Normal Is Being Interrupted

Capsized boatAre you finding the good old days illusive and intangible? Is the stability and normalcy you once knew now wobbly and uncertain? It could be your normal is being disrupted.

There are two ways to react to change and transition.One will anchor your life while preparing you for an upgrade in perspective and attitude. The other will assure that you’ll continue grasping for solidity beneath your feet as you're tossed around in a sea of confusion.

The first choice is to:

1. Rearrange the chairs on the Titanic. Be deluded into thinking you are manning up, taking the bull by the horns in an attempt to control and rearrange life. The thing is if the old self-effort way of doing things is capsizing, the position of the chairs makes little difference.

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The truth is no matter how much you strive to make something happen, somethings in life will be buoyant and others will sink. It’s important to discern the difference. Is what you are trying to maintain destined to capsize? Are you loosing control so you can learn to be powered by a new Source that will enable you to float and gain peace?

The night my husband Bill was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor I knew I had to make a choice. I could be swept away with fear and worry that would capsize my life before the next morning, or choose the life raft of faith for the days ahead.  Did that mean my life turned out perfectly? No, Bill went home to heaven 5 weeks later and I was left with the daunting task of raising four small children alone. Nevertheless my choice anchored me and kept me from capsizing. Today in life’s current season of change and transition I rely on the same anchor to keeps me afloat.

The reason this choice anchors me is because of an even deeper foundational belief that I am completely loved. Believing in a Supreme Love helps me navigate life's disruptions and keeps me hopeful. Love carries, transforms, uplifts, shelters and keeps me floating, instead of sinking.

If you're ready to choose something other than mad grabs at control, there's option #2!

2. Learn to:

  • Let go and live in the present.
  • Condition yourself to see the opportunity in every circumstance.
  • Choose upward behavior and thoughts instead of negative, downward-spiraling behavior or thoughts. 
  • Don’t try to figure out what you can’t possibly know or foresee, because it’s beyond your pay grade. Fix your stance on hope!
  • Stay close to love ones and recognize this is no time to be a lone wolf.
  • Practice letting go and living fully in the moment.
  • Exercise faith that anchors.

Although I might not have chosen many of the things I've walked through in my life, such as burying a young husband, through the process of having my normal disrupted, I've gained valuable internal gold that no one can take away. Instead of capsizing I've learned to float.

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Are You A Poser?

rockstar-games-baby-free-screensavers-188570Do you ever feel inconsistent like a bouncy ball bouncing all over the place? Feel like a fake, what you thought ten years ago, last week, or this week you suddenly see in a different light? Are you more confused and less certain about everything the older you get? Then take comfort in the words of Walt Whitman,

Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself. I am large. I contain multitudes.”

I want to tell those holding firmly to their rules, their opinions about life and themselves that someday mystery will overtake them and they’ll find themselves in a curious redesign process. Suddenly they'll have loosened their reigns, resigned their tight grip of control, begun to accept the once unacceptable, let go of neatly outlined definitions, start repainting black and white and challenging just about everything they’ve thought. 

Thomas Merton said, “In order to become myself I must cease to be what I always though I wanted to be, and in order to find myself I must go out of myself, and in order to live I have to die. The reason for this is that I am born in selfishness and therefore my natural efforts to make myself more real and more myself make me less real and less myself, because they revolve around a lie.

Maybe some never do let go, but grip life even harder in attempts to make it behave. Some don’t bend and shift and change, but embrace their nearsightedness to their last breath.

We’ve all heard bitter words cast upon an up and coming generation, but what if instead we choose to:

  • Redesign and redefine life, embracing its many transitions?
  • Stop letting groupthink, the relatives, neighbors or parishioners define us?
  • Bless those we don’t understand instead of judging and cursing them (including ourselves?)

We don’t have to have it all figured out. We get to define and be redesigned many times over in life. If it hasn’t happened yet, just wait it will. Life is a constantly winding journey.

Are you a poser? Good question. I have found parts of me betraying myself at many a time, parts I never even understood. Parts that in the right moment surfaced like a bobber on the water. Did I turn further on myself in the realization? No, it was the greatest opportunity and invitation to suspend judgment and  nurture myself through the confusion, to discover more in the unraveling and to continue to expand and grow. In my mind those willing to do that are anything but posing. They are investing in uncovering the truth within.

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Has the Carpet Been Pulled Out From Under You?

Kimberism: Keep smiling, it makes people wonder what you're up to. Author Unknown While having coffee with a girl friend I reached into my purse to find a pen and managed to pull out pieces of shredded tissue, wads of paper and who knows what else. Laughing I exposed the hot mess I currently am! A few minutes later I looked down to realize that my fly was open!

Do you ever feel like your life is seeping out from the seams like dough oozing out from a can of Pillsbury biscuits? In the past I have done a pretty good job of controlling the seepage. However, like most everyone I know, I am in a season of letting go of control in a deeper, more profound way than ever before. The days of scurrying to keep a perfect house, having every article placed neatly in my purse and completed Christmas shopping by October are gone. Since my natural power grid is being altered I am tapping into a Superior Power Source!

To tell you the truth I am relieved not to have to hold my breath as if holding in my "muffin top"! I am able to laugh at my dishevelment with friends that love me because of my shredded-tissue-laden purse. Tell me, are you bored with perfectly coiffed lives as much as I am?

There is nothing as refreshing to me as other Lucille Balls whose carpet has been pulled out from under them, their heels are over their head, having let go and given way to a Superior Power Source.

Isn’t it time to let go and let God?

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