Day 19 Throw Until Something Sticks

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My dentist said that when he was 6 years old he knew he wanted to be a dentist and by twelve he knew the exact spot he wanted to live and start his practice. Although that is amazing, it is extremely rare. Most of us need some time as adults for self- discovery and self-permission.

 

As a life coach I work with adult client after client that is redesigning, refiguring and rediscovering themselves and their lives. Redesign is a natural part of life’s transitions. Instead of shunning the notion, we should eagerly embrace it, because life has a way of throwing us into new experiences that cause us to shift and recalibrate our direction.

 

My friend Robert Ricciardeli said, “You don’t need to change who you are to become successful. You just need to live in the authenticity of who you are for success to find you.”

 

Recalibrating is often about leaning into your natural, God given passion, gifting and bent and seeing the design process emerge. For some this is highly specific, but for many this is the equivalent to throwing stuff on the wall and discovering what sticks, while being unafraid to try various possibilities. When you feel inspired, grab a chunk of life, give yourself permission, throw it on your wall and see what happens.

Day 9 Lack Rescinded

 

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Do you ever wonder what stops the flow of inspiration? Why does the well dry up and you feel parched and dry when the water supply is within and not out of reach?

 

Sometimes I put myself through mental gymnastics thinking I am isolated and alone, much like I felt as a child. That is UNTIL I realize that even if I feel alone, I've never ever been alone, except in my perceptions.

 

I know its popular to talk about perception, mindsets and shifts these days, but its because we are waking up to a reality that has always existed, but we've failed to see. We’ve had the wool pulled over our eyes, while in actuality the veil no longer exists.

 

We’ve looked outside of ourselves for the mirror image that exists within. We’ve looked for inspiration outwardly, when inspiration is busting at the seams with breath and life, hope’s meter tapping away love's melody, wooing and including us in the passionate dance and resonance of life.

 

When I bump up next to you I feel the spray of breath, inspiration filling the air, new and alive, bumping up against the life of inspiration within me. It’s the patter of little feet, the baby in the womb stirring to the sound of the Father’s voice and likeness in each of us.

 

It’s asking you what you carry, what joy you're pregnant with and what life you have to deliver? Grace announces that lack has been rescinded.

 

Lack Rescinded

 

Starving while the table is set, this gap forgetting where there is no lack.

Swallowed up in Trinity glory, friendship of fullness, ache subsided.

Wrapped in over-loved goodness, caressed and lavished inexplicably strong.

You are not far off as some might be. You are not a wonderer, not like me.

You are steady and sure and constant devotion, like the ocean overflowing the beach.

Lapped up in embrace, no morsels of rationing,

no short sale, no barter for goods. Love completeness, flourishing full.

 

 

Day 5 Desire Isn't a Bad Thing

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For sometime I’ve followed the notion that things flow effortlessly and with ease when we get instep with what is being divinely initiated in our lives, rather than trying to assert our own effort and will.

 

Here's where I get this notion:“God does not respond to what we do; we respond to what God does. We’ve finally figured it out. Our lives get in step with God and all others by letting him set the pace, not by proudly or anxiously trying to run the parade.” Romans 3:27-28 MSG

  

The thing that gets some people into trouble is that in an attempt to follow what God is doing; they shun anything they desire believing their heart is evil. But Psalm 37:4 tells us that God actually “appoints” and “bestows” the things we desire. That’s what the word “give” translates to mean in this verse, “Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desire of your heart.” 

 

He actually appoints the things we desire. When we deny the things God has uniquely placed and appointed in our hearts, we are actually resisting God. Instead we need to recognize that we are no longer living under the old covenant that states that the heart is deceitful and wicked (Jer. 17:1). We've been reconciled and given new hearts. 

Living in the old outdated frame of reference keeps people disconnected from their heart, and the God who occupies it, living from a slave mentality, rather than sonship. Here's the deal: we actually get to live in the freedom we’ve been given, instead of running from it.

  

How to Get In Step

It’s when we trust God to initiate and activate the things he’s placed in our heart, rather than trying harder and working to produce them in our own steam that we get instep with him. This isn't a legal proposal, dictating that we had better stay out of a holy God's way, but an easy, breezy overflow of entering into the fullness of life through relationship that allows us to be instep. 

We can stay in the lens of legality, do's and don'ts, or the lens of liberty that has granted us all things, though all things are not what might be inspired in this moment.

Francois Du Toit tells us in the Mirror Bible Translation, “Truth has found its most authentic and articulate expression in human life. If our message seems vague to anyone, it is not because we are withholding something from certain people! It is just because some are so stubborn in their efforts to uphold an outdated system that they don’t see it! They are all equally found in Christ but they prefer to remain lost in the cul-de-sac language of the law."  2 Corinthians 4:2 MB

To wrap up my thoughts today, we have the freedom to chose from our heart, but we also have the invitation to choose the best things over every dangling carrot that grabs our attention. Today on day 5 of 30 Days of Creative Expression, I am journaling around, the art of things chosen well, not often. I am leaning into the invitation that is alive within and noticing where life is beating its most fervent, yes!

 

Debunking Cool

Debunk CoolDuring the mornings radio program I do with life coach Nicole Greer entitled, A Little Bit Vibrant and A Little Bit Moxie discussing the trap of perfectionism, I shared about an experience I had when I belonged to a support group for widows that ranged in age from a woman in her eighties to me, the youngest, in my mid thirties. This lively, engaging group supported one another in re-configuring life amidst widowhood.

 

Robin Hood had his band of mighty men, and I had a band of widows that helped me rediscover my passion and gusto for life. With one foul swoop all of my neatly ordered ducks had fallen out of a row and any idea of a magazine ready life had ended up on its backside.

 

This precious band of warriors met regularly for lunch and once attended a Friday night party at an Arthur Murray Dance Studio. The way these parties worked was that while guest we’re drinking the liberally poured champagne, dance instructors moseyed around the room with an invitation for a spin on the dance floor in hopes of enticing us into dance lessons.As each dashing instructor took the hand of an unsuspecting assailant giggles combusted. With a hand to the hip and a tug to pull each fledgling dancer closer into an instructor’s chest, bashful excitement erupted.

 

Not one gloomy wildflower sat off to the side, as this ruckus band of rosy-cheeked widows laughed and spun the night away. Little attention was given to Downton Abbey propriety as each of us was swept into the exuberance of the gut splitting time of our lives.

 

Retelling this story during the radio broadcast awakened a spark of remembrance that had my insides twirling and my cool factor disarmed. There’s a beautiful synchronicity that occurs when we welcome our vulnerability, rather than our feeble attempts to avoid its presence.

 

Letting Go go of the Secrecy Code

Although much of the effort given to the cool factor of perfectionism is manifested on the outside in attempts to “look good”, its really an attempt to cover over the “not enough” feelings that nag at us on the inside. Changing this tendency can’t be reversed merely by rules, or behavior modification, but requires a willingness to be seen as we truly are and a deeper internal rewiring and transformation. Openness to speak about your story and let go of secrecy is an important step in practicing authenticity and vulnerability.

 

When those fear driven scarcity feelings cause us to armor up through performance, perfectionism, and striving, the greatest thing we can do for ourselves is let go, laugh at our need to be cool, (remember a funny personal story to break the intensity, like my toilet paper story that I talk about in my book, Untamed Heart  ;-) ,  show self-compassion and joyfully practice gratitude and authenticity.

 

In waving good-bye to perfectionism, we’re accepting the invitation to show up to life, get out on the dance floor and live in all of our messy exuberance, which is by far a superior reality than a half lived life.

 

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The One Fix that Can't Be Fixed!

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Do you face each day with the idea that you are broken and need something outside of yourself to fix you? Do you look for that illusive magic pill that will make you complete when you’re already filled to the brim with gold?

What if instead of believing you're deficient you owned that you're fully complete and have everything you need within you to live a full and thriving life?

 Some things don’t need to be fixed. Some things need a whole new perspective.

What if instead of seeing the world as a victim, out of control, lacking and insufficient, you realized that you're stocked full withGod's utter wealth and brilliance. What if you believed you were absolutely loved to the fullest measure the way you are now?

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You see it all has to do with your perspective. I hold to the foundational belief that I am utterly and completely loved. I was made in love and I am sustained by perfect love, so how could I lack anything.

Does that mean that everyone in my life has always loved me? No! Does it mean that everything in my life has always gone my way? No, it doesn’t. It means that I don’t measure my worth or quality of life based on the exterior world, but on the reality of a love that exists beyond the material world in and through me every moment.

That makes me quite wealthy and complete. In fact, I wake up most days believing that I am completely full and have everything I need for an outstanding life.

The Struggle

Do I ever struggle? Yes, there are days when I see life through the lens of fear, caught on a low plane, I can’t see the forest for the trees. There are days that I struggle with what appears to be true, but isn’t. There are days that I measure my worth based on what you and everyone else thinks about me, which instantly reduces my inherent value in my own eyes to someone of little worth. 

The reality is that I know the truth. Circumstances may occasionally rattle me, but I am so completely loved that sooner or later I wake up to this reality and comprehend this fullness. Although there were many a year I lived victim to depression and circumstances, I now rest in and soak up all of love’s overflowing goodness, because Love anchors me.

You may be a naysayer. That’s ok. You can maintain your reality. The reality I choose ( it is a choice) centers me in perfect love, so full and complete that it swallows up all toxicity. There is nothing that needs to be fixed when one lives in love’s goodness. Every difficulty, every notion of lack, every obstacle and shadow of darkness is ultimately overcome by love. Love is my only fix!

 

 

3 Easy Tips to Disengage Distractions

photo-6Nine-month-old Wyatt sat on my lap preening his neck one way and then the other to capture the colorful movement flashing on the TV screen in front of him and the reflection in the mirror behind him.

He seemed unclear where to devote his attention.  Sound familiar? Often there are so many colors flashing at us in life that it becomes difficult to know where to focus. We position our gaze on something, only to discover it’s merely a reflection and not what we thought it was at all.

How many dangling carrots have grabbed your attention, only to distract you from what you really wanted to focus on?

It is important to define the things that hold real value and meaning in our life. Many people think they know what matters the most to them, yet demonstrate the lack of clear parameters and boundaries to filter less important criteria.

That is why Clarification, Optimization and Activation are so important.

 

To disengage your distractions, reboot and refocus!

  • Clarify where you are currently.
  • Devote time to determine where you are going.
  • And define and create a plan to get there.

 

Otherwise you may continue to experience whiplash from the constant preening that derails your focus.

What's The Fuss About Getting Untamed?

Get-Untamed There are plenty of people that are content to mottle through, not look up from their desk, cope, comply, bury, forfeit, overlook and deny their true inner wealth, but not me! I've let life’s pressure carve and shape this diamond. Why waste the process? Why let it be for naught? I've been willing to become unraveled, disheveled and dismantled, so I could own the beauty that is here. I am not ashamed to state it. You shouldn't be either.

We each possess and carry beauty. Yours may be different than mine, but I will honor and recognize it and give thanks for it.  I don’t want to hangout with the “good girls” who color in the lines. I've been there and done that. I can recognize a parrot in a second flat! I want to hang among the brave, beautiful warriors, who soar and who fall, who risk and who leap. Not the pristine rule keepers that spout the law and miss the entire point.

Hear me scream, “Let your heart go, so it can be found. Join the risk takers and get untamed!” If that's up your alley, check out Untamed Heart:Releasing Your Creative Genius and down load a free chapter!

Things that Make My Heart Go Pitter Patter

Kimberism: "Joy in looking and comprehending is nature's most beautiful gift." Albert Einstein As I start out a New Year I always reevaluate my goals and dreams. One of the fun things I have done to get my creative juices pumping in years past is to make a list of the things that make my heart go Pitter Patter. Here is an updated version of an oldie but goodie, 25 Things that Make My Heart Go Pitter Patter. What are the things that make your heart go pitter patter? Make your own List. Need help jump starting your creativity? Join Heart through Art and unleash new passion and innovation. 

25 Things that Make My Heart Go Pitter Patter

  1. The way my husband looks at me and holds my hand
  2. Big family life
  3. Helping women live inspired, passionate lives that make a difference
  4. God's amazing creativity and love for me
  5. My creative kids who aren't afraid to be different from the pack
  6. The ability to dream
  7. Hearing and responding to the music in my heart
  8. Stretching, risking and always growing
  9. Living from a place of divine inspiration and vision
  10. Women and our wonderful ways
  11. Communicating, writing, creating and ideation
  12. Color and texture
  13. Girl's get-aways
  14. Dates with my man
  15. Beautiful clothes
  16. Travel
  17. Laughter and fun and more laughter and fun
  18. Recognizing that the only limitations are self-imposed
  19. Joy from the inside out
  20. Selfless acts of love
  21. Beautiful beaches
  22. Liberty to be myself
  23. Good food and good conversation
  24. Dancing
  25. God's kindness and man's embrace

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New Language

Kimbersism: "Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it." Confucius

For years I've had an on going love affair with beautiful chairs. In a difficult a transitional season in my life chairs became the living metaphor for the changes I encountered. During this period every room I entered led me into an encounter with a voluptuous chair. As if spotlights were directing me I was drawn to unique pieces that oozed beauty. I stumbled upon curved legs, slanted backs, plump cushions, sensual fabrics that somehow told a story in their worn loveliness. I purchased several chairs that accompanied me as I embraced the shattered spaces of my heart.

Widowhood reshaped me and varied tattered, but lovely, one-of-a-kind chairs mirrored the door way of acceptance I learned to walk through. Tragedy and transition rarely feel sexy, yet with the right perspective radiate beautiful hues. Life and my chairs speak about passion, love, and risk. What one of us doesn’t carry those markings of life?

My chair with the brilliant purple fabric, and iridescent alphabet letters could be the most vivid of them all. It radiates a childlike eagerness and the risk of learning bold new language.

How can you expand your definition of beauty by owning whatever season you are living in today? Practice embracing the unspoken hues that radiate beauty from your life.

 

Dreaming the Dream

Kimberism: “A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.” John Barrymore I love to dream. I’m not merely speaking of dreaming with my heart, but dreaming at night. It’s amazing to me that I can be passively sleeping and receive inspiration through a dream.

Last night I had a dream that caused me to awake with excitement. It reminded me that no matter how difficult times may be we must strive to stay connected to our joy. In the dream I saw a teleprompter broadcasting the phrase, “Turn your black and white dreams in for Technicolor.”

When times are difficult it is easy to be tempted to shut down, or throw out ones dreams. However, in my dream I was being encouraged to turn up the brightness, not dumb down my dreams.

In the 1998 film Pleasantville, life was in black and white until people’s hearts began to be awakened. Suddenly the whole town started coming to life, but not without ample resistance. There will always be circumstances to challenge our dreams. However, during times of difficulty its not time to do away with dreaming, its time to unleash our greatest creativity!

What are you doing to stoke the embers of your dreams? How are you keeping the fire of your passion alive?

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Go From Stressed-Out to Blissed-Out

Kimberism: Stress isn't about what happens to us, but rather our reaction to it.

Several times over the years my body has responded to life by refusing to carry on and collapsing in fatigue. Although the work to rebuild my adrenals, healthy thyroid function and overall energy has been time consuming and frustrating, the process reminded me, “If a vision lacks bliss check to see if it is divinely-powered or self-powered.”

Most of us are able to do a lot, I mean a lot in our own strength. Mankind has an amazing fortitude. However, the point is not to live in a consistent state of testing ones fortitude. Its clear that like the Energizer Bunny our batteries need to be recharged. Rather than testing my strength and becoming maxed-out I would rather tap into a superior strength that powers me to live at a higher state of bliss. How about you?

Are you tired of feeling like you're walking up hill with a ton of bricks in tow? Do you feel:

  • Your passion has been doused by working too hard to do all the right things with little payoff
  • Like you’re white knuckling it and wish life could feel effortless
  • You struggle to remember the last time you felt giddy
  • You wish you could be romanced by life and connect with Something bigger than yourself
  • Are tired of peddling faster and faster while experiencing little results

If this is you, give yourself the incredible gift of self-care by signing up for my free telecall which is a part of the Cease Striving Campaign: Super Charge Your Life with Irresistible Bliss. On this call you will learn:

  • The biggest robber of bliss in your own life
  • How to connect to Something bigger than yourself
  • The difference of inspired verses self-powered vision
  • How to create a foundation to access bliss and inspired vision
  • How to identify the Stages of a Vision
  • What to do when a vision seems to die on the vine
  • The signs of divine inspiration in your life
  • How to avoid toiling over projects that are uninspired
  • How to release control and give your vision wings to fly
  • How to wake up giddy and excited everyday
  • How to find out your irresistible easy
  • How to thrive in whatever circumstances you face

Embrace Irresistible Bliss! Sign up now for this FREE telecall on Tuesday July 19th, 11:00 am PT!

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Party Girls Have More Fun

Kimberism: You can join the party of life or sit on the sidelines. In the end the choice is yours. In my youth the term “party girl” was used to describe someone who had an imbalanced affinity for socialization. Not too long ago I decided to do life and business from a “party girl” perspective. I decided to reclaim the term “party girl,” because I would rather join the party than sit on the sidelines!

I hope you realize that I’m not talking about substance abuse, unless the substance is life. I have lived way too long to settle for dispassionate duty in any area of my life when I can enjoy the grand romance of life instead.

Have you ever met people who pull a party out of their bag no matter how bleak the circumstance, because they see into a seemingly different dimension? That’s my Grandmother for you! She always manages to find joy even amongst the sourest bag of apples.

How about you? Have you recognized areas in your life that have fallen prey to the stoic adult world of obligation, duty and propriety? Have you settled for an illusion of happiness, instead of truly embracing the party?

Granite, not everyday is a picnic, yet we still get the choice to show up for life and enjoy the party. If you feel phased out of the party and want to get back in, or know there has to be more in your life and want to connect to something bigger than yourself sign up for my free telecall, Super Charge Your Life with Irresistible Bliss! You will find out how you can:

  • Live from a spacious, wide opened place of delight-led living
  • Wake up giddy and excited about life everyday
  • Connect to Something bigger than yourself 
  • Tap into the undeniable graces of effortless bliss
  • Find out what’s your irresistible easy
  • And begin to thrive in whatever circumstances you are facing

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How Do You Find Your Voice?

Kimberism: "The ‘still, small voice’ of God never calls on me to be like another man. It appeals to me to rise to my full stature and fulfill the promise that sleeps within my being." Sam Keen Did you ever wonder what role you were meant to play in the world? I always direct my clients to find clues about their purpose by checking in with their passion. 

If you’re heart is drawn in a particular area, do you put yourself through mental gymnastics wondering if it is a valid pursuit? Look at it this way, the word vocation actually means voice. Where are you meant to have a voice? Your vocation is meant to give expression to your voice.

Does your voice come alive when you are, sky diving, baking cupcakes, organizing, calculating, or when you are teaching, painting, writing or a host of other possibilities?

There is no end to the possibilities that exist. When you begin to own your voice you will begin to occupy the space to live out your vocation. For many this comes in stages. Often women need to grant themselves permission to express their voice and to follow its range.

I have a collage piece hanging in my house that pictures a group of women shrouded in burkas, silent, unseen and unspoken. Next to the row of women is pictured a young girl, smiling, free, unencumbered, radiating joy and life. Below the caption reads, “Don’t Loose Your Voice! Use It!”

Where do you feel stirred to use your voice? If you are uncertain, begin to explore various opportunities. I had no greater cheerleader in my life than my husband who encouraged me to explore every inkling of curiosity I had to find the right space for my voice. I still work to tweak it as it has morphed into my expanding vocation.

To identify your passions, it helps to consider what you loved to do as a child. And then ask, "What about that particular thing brings me joy?"

Take risks to lift your voice, explore the world around you and uncover your unique passion? Once you've clarified you passion, begin to create a blueprint detailing where you are now and where you want to end up. Remember your voice is unique to you and the only on you've got, so use it or loose it!

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I've Got the Music In Me

Kimberism: "A painter paints pictures on canvas. But musicians paint their pictures on silence." Leopold Stokowski Some of you know that since I was twelve years old I've been a singer and songwriter. Even though I left the world of acting and singing behind and moved into other creative, entrepreneurial ventures, recently I was reminded that I've still got the music in me!

I am frequently surrounded with melodies from my exquisitely talented son Samuel, as he sings sending glorious sounds through our home. Every now and then he invites me to jam with him as we do our own rendition of Steve Nick’s Landslide.

Why am I telling you this? It would be easy for me to set aside this gifting that I've possessed from childhood and move over for a younger more talented version. However, if I did I would be putting to bed something vital to my overall well being.

Although I have no intentions of hitting the road, and pursuing a musical career again, I understand the importance of this often forgotten part of myself. The 80’s served as my glory days as a member of a band for a season under Kim Fowley’s management (manager of the famed Runaways), as well as others. Nevertheless this gift still needs room and expression in my life.

Music inspires genius in me. If I allow it to remain on the sidelines of my life undernourished and out of sight, I do myself a disservice. If I allow accusing voices to taunt me with, “Just keep quiet and invisible, because aren’t you a little dated?” I will be snuffing out a very important flame. You may be asking, “Why is this important?” Its important, because this flame ignites greater creativity throughout my life.

Science has proven that the most successful people are the ones that welcome and make room for right-brain activity. Do you want to see greater success in your business, personal life, and all around well-being?

What have you put in hiding that needs to be reawakened?  Have you allowed something that stirs your soul to be kicked to the sidelines, and labeled “out dated?” If you truly have the music in you it would be a slap in the face to the one who gave it to you in the first place to silence it. Isn't it time to own your own voice?

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Are You In Segments?

Kimberism: “Every area of our life is hardwired to every other area. It is impossible to perform a task in one sphere and not have it affect another." – Todd Henry, The Accidental Creative It amazes me that as women we often separate various parts of our lives as if we were segmenting an orange. We divide ourselves up, change one hat to another, rather than living from a continuous flow of being one whole.

I never recognized all the splintered parts of myself until I reflected back on the clothes that once hung in my closet in the 80's; a leather motorcycle jacket, a business suit, a Yuppie tennis skirt, a conservative tea-dress paired with pearls and black fishnet stockings. Who was this person amidst the mixed identities?

It took me a long time to weed through the mismatched personas that dangled like false appendages in my life. When I identified that I didn't have to be a suit to do business, or a hippy to care about hearts my mismatched interpretations about myself began to smooth out.

I recognized that my business could feel more like a family than a corporation. My Wardrobe could look more like an artist than a typical CEO. I could care more about the bigger issue than the bottom line. I could depend on something greater than myself, instead of an illusion of control.

It turns out that our vocation can be more fun than simply a segmented piece of our life called work. Instead of living from the segments, we can live beautifully from the blissful whole.

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Money Trap

Kimberism: The foundation determines what will be built. We are in a new age where statistics tell us that women are spearheading a new force of entrepreneurialism across the globe. One of the most significant shifts we are seeing is that women are modeling business in a new way. Instead of driven by the need to win and beat out their competitors, many women are doing business through a win-win model that supports others, rather than tears them down.

There is also a mindset shift where heart-centered entrepreneurs are realizing that they can receive compensation for their expertise. This is crucial advancement for many heart-centered entrepreneurs who have never offered their expertise for money in the first place and often have under valued their skill. This is a needed upleveling for many heart-centered entrepreneurs.

However, there lies the challenge for women of maintaining balance rather than following suit with the old competitive model of chasing after the consuming jingle of money that ultimately overrides the heart in heart-centered.

I see many women who are are chomping at the bit to get out on the playing field, yet often what they end up creating is not what they truly want. I have seen the insatiable hunger for money trap many entrepreneurs rather than liberate them. If we fall for the snare of building something that is not aligned with our values it will become a trap and not a place of fulfillment, or liberty, no matter how successful it may appear from the outside.

For myself and the heart-centered women I serve it is important to create something that is driven by inspiration, creativity, and bliss, rather than striving for money.

Living into your moxie is about defining your own unique spark, not cloning everyone else’s model. That means honing in on your own core values, and passion, not merely following the current tide. That's what we help women do.

Life is to precious to live outside of bliss. If you are tired of the insatiable pursuit of money and want to wake up excited about your life, rather than drained and depleted from serving others values, follow us into a blissful ride through our Cease Striving Campaign. You can experience the joy of an authentic life and business that is driven by bliss. Look for our upcoming program!

 

Gold Digger

 

Kimberism: Never quit being a gold digger. Uncover your gold and other's gold too!

Recently I failed to see the wealth of possibility before me although my son Gabriel encouraged me with a story about a miner who sold his land, because he failed to uncover the wealth of gold buried below the surface. Gabriel went on to relay that the new owner moved in and effortlessly hit the mother-load just feet away from where the original owner stopped digging.

Have you ever had a day when you were blinded by the brilliant gold in your life and gotten schooled by your kid? I know I am the queen of moxie, but sometimes my moxie needs to be upleveled!

I am familiar with the idea of buried treasure. I actually coach women around this very issue, so it’s understandable that at times I need to be reminded of the importance of mining for buried treasure in my own life. The truth is the theme never becomes outdated, because we each possess an unending wealth of gold within us.

As if that mining story wasn't enough of a road sign, another of my inspiring children, Joshua, came home from work spouting that he needed a new job. It seemed his current job refused to give him time off for the important family trip we had planned. Two hours later he had followed a lead, interviewed and come home with more than a job, but rather an expansive opportunity! (You gotta love kids who are coached and return the favor to their momma!)

What I love about the mining story and witnessing my son hit the mother-load job is that none of the results came about through striving. Both stories demonstrate that the results came effortlessly by entering into grace.

The reason we have internal gold is for it to be mined and shared, yet how we go about mining does affect our results. Are you striving and seeing little results? Practice stepping back from your surroundings and re-entering in where you see grace.

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Inspired Leaning

 Kimberism: Never settle for a lesser version of yourself! One thing concerning moxie that you may not know is that from time to time I have struggled with revving up my moxie just like many of you. In fact, I have been guilty of repeatedly down-playing important aspects of my life, something many women acknowledge.

Have you noticed that sometimes a switch gets flipped and you’re not even aware that it’s causing you to morph into a lesser version of yourself? It usually looks like striving! Do you ever feel exhausted because you’re trying to tow a barge of goods that aren't yours to tow?

Comically a girl friend had a dream once where she and I were in a boat when the motor broke down. Immediately I got out of the boat and with sheer willpower and determination pulled the boat to shore myself. I have never forgotten that dream, because it is so telling. Although my tenacity has been very helpful in overcoming difficulty, my faith has produced far more power.

Since I help other women own their voice and stand in their own space, I decided I needed to do some reclaiming work myself and rev up one of my top strengths.My husband says that the reason he fell in love with me was because he never met anyone with so much hope. Although I am aware that I am some what of a Pollyanna, I think I overlooked the fact that what I possess is a special gift, a gift of faith. Hope exercised leads to faith.

I do a disservice to others when I don’t share this gift. However when I share my own miraculous experiences of leaning into faith others are strengthened. You see that’s how my life was recreated after widowhood through a lot of leaning and applied faith. As much as we like the notion that we can take care of ourselves, I have found much better results when I lean into divine help. 

I know there are many who want to live into their destined moxie and passion, and also explore faith. Although you know that I am passionate about unearthing and releasing women’s greatest potential, there is nothing I like better than to season the conversation with faith. Not because I have all the answers, (let me tell you straight up that what I possess at best is imperfect faith), but because without it I wouldn't have made it.Moxie Me helps women own their moxie and uplevel their unique giftedness, because the world needs what women possess, but I also invite you to stay plugged in and exercise new muscles and dimensions of faith.

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Spring's Hope

Kimberism: New life is ever present if we will receive it.

Spring offers a poignant message that has been lived out in my life over and over again. The most dramatic example was when my sweet husband Bill passed away fifteen years ago on Good Friday.

Although my shattered world was layered with winter barrenness, unbeknownst to me life was stirring below the surface. As with Easter and spring time, new life can’t be held back. New life emerged before my eyes with promise and hope.

The amazing thing about spring is that it can’t be forced, or hurried. You can’t make buds appear before their time. Yet, with no warning an unimpressive patch of earth reveals its first green shoots signaling the hope of what is to come. 

How do you hold on when you see no evidence of spring? I am a faith girl, so for me, what stands in the gap between what is and what will be is faith! Good Friday is more than a day of sorrow . It holds the sign of unending promise and power.

Are you surrounded by winter-barrenness in your life? Are you unable to see the promise of what you hope for on the horizon?

Be patient for spring will come, bringing with it new hope, new possibility and new growth. Life just can’t help itself; it keeps giving and giving and giving. Always extending newness and love. How are you positioned to receive? Are you standing ready with arms open wide for possibility? Is your tongue extended eager to soak up spring's refreshing rains? Mine is!

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